Everyone's fertility journey is different, but if yours has been longer than you expected or had some road blocks along the way, odds are you have felt ALL the emotions. One of the things people say most to me, friends, family, and doctors alike, is to "stay positive" or "have hope" or something in that realm. While well intended, those statements frustrate the hell out of me! I am here to say, "FEEL ALL THE FEELS!" If you are feeling depressed, hopeless, defeated, you name it, that is fine and completely valid. You do not need to pretend everything is ok and put a big smile on.
As a society, it has been engrained to believe that emotions like fear, anxiety, sadness, and the like are "negative" emotions. That term implies that they are wrong. When we feel what we think is the wrong way, guilt creeps in and just exponentially multiplies all of the struggles. Those emotions, YOUR emotions are not negative, but rather "uncomfortable." We might not like how they feel, but they are allowed to exist.
So be negative if you're feeling negative. Be hopeful when you truly feel hopeful. Don't feel guilty for feeling any sort of way on this treacherous journey as there is not a "right way" to handle all the twists and turns.
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