Disney is one of my love languages. When their new movie, "Wish," was released on Disney+, I had to watch it. Throughout the film, all I could think about was my wish to be a mother and my fertility journey so far.
The premise of the film is that a sorcerer has created this utopian type island in the Mediteranian and each citizen of his land tells him their heart's wish. When they make their wish, the sorcerer saves them, the people forget what they wished for, and then he selects people to have their wishes granted at regularly held ceremonies. Of course, there are some turns of events, but I won't spoil the movie for you.
The main character, Asha, interviews to be the sorcerer's apprentice. She enters into the sacred wish room and it is filled with these orb like glowing spheres. Honestly, I thought they looked like embryos. It made me think not just of me, but all the families wishing so much for a baby. Putting their minds, bodies, and hearts through so much at the chance of having a child. The room filled to the vaulted ceiling with all these hopes and dreams. All these babies that are so wanted and wished for, loved endlessly even before conception. I wish I had the power to fulfill them all.
The citizens of this island were filled with hope at the chance of their wish being granted. In the meantime, they lived happy lives blissfully unaware of their unfulfilled dreams. Part of me was jealous at this. Would I be happier if I didn’t know or feel this deep wound in my heart? If I could live life without a child and be happy everyday without noticing an absence, would I be better off? At one point, a character learns what her wish was and says that she now knows grief. Would the absence of grief be better?
Well, the moral of the story is the exact opposite of that. Make a wish. Dream with your heart. Live life finding ways to bring about your desires. So, how can wishing coincide with grief? How can you hold on to hope while feeling a deep sorrow for what your life is missing? It becomes an emotional balancing act. All of those feelings can coexist. There may be days where one emotion speaks louder than the other, but that doesn’t mean the others are gone. Listen to the one that is shouting out and try to give it what it needs. Acknowledgment. Validation. Love. Acceptance. Wishing on a star won’t make your dreams come true, but making your wish still holds its own power. What power will your wish give you?
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